Skip to main content

3 ways to tell if it's your intuition or your ego talking

Follow your gut. The answer is within you. We've all heard this before. The problem is sometimes when we look within we get mixed messages. Should you take that new job opportunity? Something inside is saying yes but something else is saying hell no. This is the battle of your intuition vs your ego. If you listen carefully enough, you will begin to easily tease apart the two. 

My inspiration to start listening to my intuition comes from Jess Lively. She is the queen of following her intuition and it is currently taking her on adventures all over the world. I decided to take her advice and start writing to my intuition to try and get to know it a little better.

So grab a pencil and piece a paper and lets see what it has to say. 

First off, it's best to start off with yes/no questions. Write down your question on the paper and wait. Don't just listen to the first answer that pops into your head. This is often your ego; the negative, judgemental, worrying voice. If you haven't been listening to your intuition lately, your ego is probably still centre stage. Here are three ways to begin to tell the difference between the two: 

1. The voice of your intuition feels peaceful. I often feel a little wave of relief when it's my intuition talking. My ego however often makes my thoughts race and shoulders tense up. Sometimes the answer is a little (or a lot!) exciting, especially when it's an idea or solution that hasn't occurred to you before. But still underneath this excitement you will feel a certain calmness or peace.

2. Your intuition is present moment focused. The ego is always concerned with planning the future or reliving the past. The intuition is all about the present. What you should be doing NOW! If the voice starts talking about next week or next year, that's a sure sign it's the ego coming through. Intuition is fine with uncertainty. The intuition isn't concerned why you should to do this or that. It is happy to guide you into finding your flow and letting the explanation come to you along the way. The ego hates this. It loves to over think, over plan and get you worked up into a cycle of unanswerable questions.

3. You feel your intuition in a different part of the body. When my ego is talking, I feel it in my head. A little voice right by my ear nagging me. I feel my intuition literally in my gut. Some people feel it near the heart but it's definitely going to be outside of the head. Pay attention when you hear an answer to your question and try to locate where in the body it is originating from. After some practice you will be able to locate it with little to no effort.

So find a quiet spot, calm your mind with some deep breathing, prayer or meditation and start getting to know your intuition. Write down a question, wait for that calm, present moment focused answer from inside you and write down the answer. Don't be afraid to ask follow-up questions if you need a little more clarity. I often fill up a page chatting with my intuition. You know you've found your answer when you feel that mixture of peace and excitement in the answer. 

Good luck and let me know in the comments if you were able to quiet down your ego and hear your intuition with this method.


Popular posts from this blog

How to get into Alignment

The best advice I’ve ever been given: “Get as happy as you can, as often as you can.”
One of biggest roadblocks of my journey came in the form of the elusive alignment requirement. 
The word alignment was popping up all over the place. 
Let’s start with the basics. What is Alignment?
The definition of Alignment can vary from teacher to teacher. Some, as with Eckhart Tolle, see Alignment as being mentally situated in the present moment. Alignment comes when we are not dwelling on the past or anticipating/worrying about the future. 
Mindful meditation is a great exercise to train your brain to slow down and focus on the present. A student of mine combats the stress of university by practicing Yoga. She shared with me that the only time she could slow her brain down and relax was during Yoga class. I immediately recognized this as her Alignment practice! Yoga allowed her to be present not focus on the past or future.
However, one should not simply restrict this exercise to only a 10-30 minute …

Everything you think you know about sun exposure is WRONG. Here’s the proof!

It was a conversation with my doctor, years ago, that first peaked my curiousity about the risk vs. the reward of sun exposure. As I confided in him about the onset of depressive symptoms he asked if they got worse in the wintertime? I practically rolled my eyes at him. I had heard about Seasonal Affective Disorder in my psychology classes, and was certain my symptoms warranted a more serious diagnosis than something called SAD! Still, I agreed that maybe it was possible that I had become more depressed nearing the latter part of winter. But if this was true, I thought, what could possibly be the explanation? Was it because of the shorter, darker days? More time spent inside because of the extreme cold we experience in Canada? What did all these variables have in common?
First, A Few Facts
Ultraviolet Radiation (UVR) is part of the light spectrum that makes it from our favourite star in the sky to the rock we call home. UVR is comprised of 3 main types of UV rays; UVA, UVB, and UVC.
The …

3 no-fail ways to re-enter Alignment when you can’t get back in (+ a bonus last resort!)

The flow you experience when you are in Alignment is addicting. You’re feeling fantastic, everything seems to be going your way, life’s difficulties feel temporary and you’re motivated to fix them without complaint.
But life requires contrast and as a consequence, once you’ve experienced the magic of being in Alignment, it becomes very frustrating when you’re out and can’t seem to get back in. Your usual get happy tricks aren’t working. Netflix is boring, you’re sick of the music on your playlist, it’s too cold to go for a walk and even a piece of your favourite chocolate just ain’t cutting it today.
Here are my top three tricks to get you back into Alignment.
Accept it (without judgement)
This is number one for a reason. It’s one of the most powerful tools you can use when you’re feeling those negative emotions that are keeping you down. It can also be one of the most difficult steps to take. The good news is that once you start practicing acceptance on a regular basis it becomes alm…

7 tips to get your subconscious mind to work for you!

So you've watched the secret, or read about the law of attraction? You hear people talking about manifesting and making their dreams come true.  You think, hey if they can do it, so can I! Your biggest desire comes to mind and you set off on the path to bring it into your life. You cut out pictures of your dream car, you put it on your bulletin board and on the bathroom mirror. You start picturing yourself in your new car everyday and the desire becomes stronger. After a month your new car still hasn't arrived. You start wishing harder, more often. You're starting to wonder how your new car is going to come to you. The lottery? A raise at work? You start getting frustrated, feeling a little foolish and maybe even angry. You decide this new age stuff is a bunch of junk and you tear down the pictures from your wall, embarrassed you ever bought into the hype.
I thought the more energy I put into wanting something, the more I thought about how I was going to get it, the more li…

21 Day Reset Part 3 - When to Eat: Slow Down, You’re Going To* Fast.

*excuse the pun ;)

Many have now discovered when they eat is just as (maybe more so...) important as what they eat.
Fasting is no longer a terrible f word met with tsk tsk noises and warnings about slowing metabolisms. In fact, I was just at a market this weekend and when offered samples I would let them know I couldn’t partake because I was fasting, I was astonished at the amount of people who also fasted or had a story about someone else’s fasting success. 
Fasting is the quickest way to reduce insulin levels and your body weight set point. Bye bye buddha belly. Studies also point to fasting potentially for longevity enhancement . In fact, longevity improvements are seen with intermittent fasting even without caloric reduction. Fasting can also cause a reduction ininflammation. Inflammation is bad for the joints, the heart, your waist line and can even play a role in cancer and depression. 
So how can we see all these great benefits from fasting and yet no decrease in metabolic rate lik…